Hospice care arranged

This morning several people from hospice care arrived to describe the services they offer. We begin by keeping JB at home as long as possible which means that staff and nurses will make regular visits during the week to assess JB's status, administer drugs and pain meds and try to make him as comfortable as possible. Right now I am struggling with the idea of keeping him at home versus a hospice location where there would be more round the clock service. JB's strong desire is to remain at home of course, but the strain of making sure there is someone there around the clock is going to be difficult to manage. JB's family and friends are making a valiant effort to provide that company, but of course there are constraints on everyone schedule to be able to break away to fill the voids when I cannot be home. My work has been flexible and I do have some time saved up to try to be around.
Some of the fears we have are how well JB can manage some of the routine activities we all take for granted. His fatigue induced by the cancer and drugs makes him very unsteady. Getting up and down stairs is nearly impossible on his own. He has been making it to the bathroom, but even that process scares us as he could easily loose his balance along the way and fall. We think about putting a bed down stairs, but JB's strong will probably will induce him to try to continue to go off on his own and the down stairs is just as unsafe for him alone as the upstairs.
For now we will access how well the home hospice situation works along with the scheduling of family and friends to spend time at the house and keep him company. We are teaching them the drugs he might need and how to administer the nutrition through his feeding tube.
The process of taking care of a dying person is much more difficult than I could have ever imagined. Just having the hospice people over describing what they could do took over 3 hours and I ended up with a headache from all of the issues that we need to take care of. I believe I have had an optimistic view of what home hospice could provide us, but they are limited with time and resources. They talked about their services such as music therapy, massage and bathing along with the nurses visits. The nurse can visit several times a week and will only stay an hour to check on him. The massage can be done once or twice a month, same story with the music therapy. I was thinking a few times a week would be better, as it is possible JB is not around more than a month and thus would barely get to sample some of the hospice services. Everything is discussed in terms of a few times a month and that seems minimal to me looking at the time that JB has left.
The nurse called later today to tell me about some prescriptions that will arrive and I asked her in her opinion dealing with terminal patients what she thought about JB's outlook. Of course she mentioned there is no way to tell, but a few weeks perhaps. JB's fortitude is amazing and we cannot discount him being strong and being with us much longer. My sadness wells with the thoughts of his days being spent as they currently are, in pain and sleeping most of the day...barely lucid. The nurse said often times her patients do sleep much of the time, that appears to be par for the course with dying people. I simply wish I could spend the waning days of JB's life with the man I have spent the last 10 years with, not the shell that has appeared these last few weeks. Does he realize I am still with him through his dreamy haze? I know he does not want to be alone, but the moments he does come into awareness will anyone be there for him to be comforted by, before he goes back to sleep? I believe these thoughts torment all of us who love him so much, knowing we cannot be there 24/7 to fill the few moments he is aware when he could use us the most.